Choosing to place a baby or child up for adoption is one of the most difficult decisions a person will ever have to make. If you are pregnant and trying to decide whether you should parent your baby after they are born or place it for adoption with another family, there are some things you should consider before making your final decision.
Talk to other parents
Talk to people in your social circle who are already parents. Ask them if they are willing to have a thorough and maybe even uncomfortable conversation about the joys and realities of parenting a newborn. If you are facing the possibility of being a single parent, it would be a great idea to talk to other people who are raising their children on their own to talk about how they cope and make it work. These people can be an invaluable resource with insights into parenting. They can give you advice that could go a long way in helping you to make a decision.
Can you get the support you need?
Unfortunately, not all pregnancies happen to people who want to be mothers, or to women who are necessarily in a position to be a mother. There can be tremendous personal issues that may be happening in your life that may make you feel that you can’t take care of another human being at this point. If you decide to parent your baby, would you be able to get the support you need from family and friends? Do you need to attend counselling? Will you need a rehab program? Do you need to set up your life to prepare for being a single parent? You may have to overcome one or more of these obstacles to parent your child. If you can receive the support you need to be an effective parent, you may be able to keep the baby, if not, it might be time to consider adoption.
Imagine the life you want for your baby
Sit down and imagine the life that you desire for your baby. If you are truly able to provide it for them, and deep down you know that you have the emotional strength and fortitude to care for the baby and provide him or her with the life you’ve always imagined for him or her, you may be able to give your baby a happy life by remaining his or her parent. On the other hand, if you truly feel that he or she would be better off with another family, you would not be doing the baby a disservice by giving them to a loving adoptive family.
Are you and the baby’s father under 18?
If you and the baby’s father are both under 18, it might take some serious soul-searching to determine if you can care for a child. Of course, there can be wonderful parents who have children when they were very young, but it may be extremely overwhelming to be a successful parent when you are still physically and emotionally developing yourself. It may be especially difficult, if the father has made the decision to be uninvolved in the child’s life after it is born.
There are loving adoptive families
There are many people who want a child so badly and are unable to become pregnant because of fertility issues. You can rest assured that, should you decide to place your child for adoption, all of the prospective parents are given background checks and go through a rigorous screening process to make sure they would be suitable parents. You can be assured that they will be placed in a secure, stable home.
If you are pregnant and are unsure of what you should do, adoption is an option. It can help to talk to other parents, reach out and do research about support options once the baby is born, and to do some serious self-evaluation of your life and circumstances before making a decision. Although it can be a painful decision, if you decide adoption is the right thing to do, there are many families who will care for and love an adopted child. They would be so grateful for the completion of their families and their chance to be a parent. Talk to an adoption agency today to discuss your options.
This article was written by Shin McAllister, an experienced content writer and publisher on the topics related to pregnant adoption.